In hard times

Life has it up's and downs. Everyone is going to have different opinions on your life and the things that you do, so how do you get through the hard moments? The fact of life is that marriage is not easy. Most marriages have lots of rough spots. These rough spots can cause one of two things to happen. They can either make the marriage stronger, or they can ruin it. Which it is for you, is up to you. What your rough spots are will vary. For some it is money, for others cheating or insecurity, for others a death, or birth, etc. So, it would be wise to prepare yourself for rough spots of all varieties as the old adage goes, “It is better to be prepared for tough times and not have them than to have tough times and not be prepared.” The following are some tips for getting through the hard times in a marriage with a stronger relationship rather than one that is ruined: Don’t worry, be happy. The person who sits and waits for something bad to happen will surely find it. You should not try and fix something that is not broken. The fact of the matter is that worrying does more damage than good. So, instead of wasting time and energy worrying, you should look at hope, and find solutions. Worry gets you no where, and worse, it puts up road blocks for when you try to go somewhere. Patience is a virtue. Patience is one of the smartest attributes you can have if you are worried about going through tough times in your marriage. It is sort of like a cure all. If you can be patient and not let stress sway you into losing perspective. Being patient enough to get through the hard times without being overly wound or stressed will help you to keep adversity from damaging your relationship. Part of patience is seeing that hard times are not someone’s fault but part of life, and if you are patient you will know that blame and criticism of your spouse will get you no where but in a broken marriage. Sarcasm is the like the opposite of patience, so do not let sarcasm take over your life. Be quick to forgive. Sometimes hard times bring out the worst in us, and we can start to hate, blame, and hurt the people we profess to love. You have to recognize that your upset feelings are like a disease that can infect your relationship if you let it. If you do not take necessary precautions, you will let resentment, frustration and hate take the place that love, kindness, and understanding should be. So, forgive mistakes, be open armed and ready to accept people despite their imperfections, you have them too. You make mistakes and need forgiveness occasionally as well, so don’t be selfish with your forgiveness, give openly. Laugh at yourself. Believe it or not if you can find humor, even if it is just irony, when hard times fall, your relationship will be much stronger. Do your best to find humor in the challenge you are facing. If you can do this, you can survive it. If you learn to laugh at the situation, you will learn to have hope for something better. Join forces. When something bad happens you should not seclude yourself, rather you should join forces. You and your spouse are a team, and what better time to stand together than against adversity? If you commit to one another that even during the hard times you will stick with each other, and if you remind one another of your promise to endure you will likely find that your relationship can withstand a lot more, and you will become closer, stronger, and more united because of the experiences. It is common to brood, withdraw from each other, etc. Instead you should practice turning to each other instead of away when crisis hits. The following is a simple list of things that you should remember during hard times in your marriage if you want it to work. Don’t blame each other. Be slow to judge and quick to forgive. Remind yourself that the tough times won’t last forever and that there is a rainbow after the rain. Don’t have a negative attitude, it gets you no where. Ask for help from family and friends when possible. Remember your love and commitment to each other and remind each other of it often. Exercise and getting plenty of sleep so you are not as stressed. Getting through all the hard moments not only will help strengthen your marriage, but allow you to feel that anything is possible together. Hope we helped you see that it is possible to get through those hard moments.

Don't let the views of others limit you.

Have the opinions of other people caused you to water down your dreams? There will always be critics and naysayers in life. It’s not what’s said about you that affects your life, but what you say and believe about yourself. One of the most important things you can learn is that other people don’t have to believe in you in order for your dreams to come to pass. Other people don’t set the limits for your life — you do. In Romans 3:3, the Apostle Paul is saying, “It doesn’t matter if other people don’t believe. Their unbelief is not going to keep me from believing in my dreams.” When God puts a promise in your heart, it’s not up to other people to bring it to pass, it’s up to you! You don’t need everyone to validate you. You have to follow the voice of God for yourself and allow Him to order your steps. Remember, God sees the hidden treasures that you’ve had buried on the inside of you. He wants to bring those treasures out and make your dreams reality! As you get rid of old, defeated thoughts and replace them with what God says about you, you will remove the limits and live the abundant life God has in store for you! In other words Sometimes you are labeled as different because you have not achieved what others have. What about what you’ve achieved that they cannot? Be different, only those who believe in the uniqueness of their abilities are counted as "OUTSTANDING

comparison

Comparison is a fatal trap that will do more than wound your mind and your thinking; it’ll wound and possibly break your spirit. The issue is not how much smarter someone else is than you think you are. That only lends itself to a narrow and limited focus of areas that may not be your unique gifting. The key is to discover and appreciate how you are smart. Know that and you’re free from worry about how smart you are. Seeds do their best work in the deep darkness, hidden from view, when seemingly blanketed by layers of the heavy soil of life’s transitions. We all have a unique gift grows yours! The greatest harvests from the seeds of dreams in your life often are the result of the many the tears you shed when hidden in the darkness.

Thinking. Out loud pt1

It's about 48min down the hours of 11pm am seating In the comfort Of my best chair in the living Room. The follow of the cool evening breeze just keeps following through the windows into the living room hitting every part of me. In this simi celestial state the thoughts Of the future just sets in. Here in africa. Precisely Nigeria every young person is looking forward to making as much money as possible most of this desire are born out of the "success" of some individuals. Some of who are musicians, movie celebrities and much more. Taking a deep thought into the motive behind we young people wanting to make money I have found that many are so cought up with the lifestyle of  "celebrities" from driving expensive cars for wearing designer clothing and the fame that comes with it. Money which is generally know as currency is basically meant to be spent, but I oppose those with the above motive to making money. My father once told me "my son money is for three things 1. Invest in God's work(church), 2. To be spent on yourself and 3. To help others" I buy into my dad's explanation in totality. The 3rd point is were am paying more attention to in this thought of mine which is "to help others" someone once said "a life well spent isn't that measured by the flit of cars you own, neither is it measured by the statement your bank account says, but by the lives that gives thanks to God you where created" Paul enuche. This quote says it all. Having enough money is good, having lost of cars to some extent is also good, but what really measures the worthiness of any human is the lives he or she has impacted positively. Major faiths on earth agree on this. So dear reader while having the thought of making money so also have the thought of the true reason behind making it. A very popular Bible verse says, "its more blessed to give than to receive". Acts 20:35. #Jammal

OBSATCLES

Our
subconscious mind ("automatic
success mechanism" "cervo-
mechanism" Dr. Maltz) responds
appropriately to our given
situation based on the
information we give it. We must
glance at the obstacles and
focus entirely on the goal we
want to achieve. Like all the
animals and plants in nature, we
are hard wired for success. We
must use our imagination to
point at targets we want to hit
rather than use it for worry and
negativity. Focus on where
you are going to go. Vision the
success, not the obstacles.

Know Him as Father

TODAY’S SCRIPTURE

“For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, ‘Abba, Father’ ”
(Romans 8:15, NIV)

TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria

When you acknowledge that Jesus is the Son of the living God, that He came to earth, lived a sinless life, died for our sins and rose again on the third day, then you have a new relationship with God. He becomes your Savior. People receive this truth and know God as the all-powerful, all-mighty Creator of the universe — the King of kings and the Lord of lords. And, He is all of that and worthy of our praise! But, many people don’t realize how personal God wants to be with you. He doesn’t just want you to see Him as living far off, He wants you to know Him as a close, loving and gentle Father — your Daddy.

If you didn’t have a good father growing up, don’t let that taint the image of who your heavenly Father is. He is merciful. He is forgiving. He is loving. Let the Word of God show you how good and faithful He is. Get to know Him in a more personal way. Talk to Him on a daily basis. Remember, you don’t have to go through anybody else to talk to God. You have a direct line. Know Him as your Savior, know Him as your Lord, know Him as your Father, and know His love in a new way.